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Talk/discussion at the Goncharenko centre 2025-3-16: My "list of life" (principles of life): Overview

• 16:30: Introduction
  - Dutchman living in Ukraine
  - Goal of this talk/discussion: Use negative emotions only to change your life
  - To help this: "List of life"
• 16:35: Thinking about what to do in life, travelling to Ukraine
  - I felt like an outsider in the Netherlands
  - Perhaps Eastern Europe?
  - I loved it on my first trip to Ukraine!
  - Good and bad experiences on my trips.
• 17:00: The list of life, part 1:
  - To be happy in life, keep in mind that you can only influence yourself and a little of the outside world
  - Examples of problems that did not influence my mood.
  - Then to how to be happy, my "list of life":
  
  1. don't worry
  2. don't be afraid
  3. seek meaning in your life (do in your life what you find interesting, enjoyable, fulfilling)
  4. analyse yourself and look at the past only to improve your understanding of life, of people and to improve your decision making, not to create self-doubt, not to have regret. What happened happened, you can't change the past.
  5. break free from your habits, desires and goals if they are restricting you (too much).
  6. keep in mind: "A problem is a pessimist's view of a challenge".
  7. be a yes-man (as in the film with Jim Carrey) or yes-woman now and then to give yourself new and unexpected experiences.
  8. if you can only find 1 sock from a pair: Not a problem, everyone experiences this!
  - Negative emotions: They are important signals to change something in your life.
  - Point 8: Socks: This point is a joke but also serious: Don't let unimportant things affect you!
  - Point 4: The past/regrets:
  • Questions: Write down your views on dealing with the past/regrets
  • Explanations about dealing with the past/regrets
  • How I dealt with regret and bad experiences.
  • Steps to take, so that you have no regrets.
• 17:30: Pause, tea, cookies, bread.
• 17:40: List of life, continuing
  - Point 1 and 2: don't worry, don't be afraid
  - List of actions to take, so that you will not worry any more
  - Point 6: "A problem is a pessimist's view of a challenge"
  • Questions: Write down your views on dealing with worrying/problems
  • Explanations about dealing with worrying/problems
  - Related to point 6: Considering what you don't like, as being positive anyway
  - Similar to Point 1 (don't worry): Don't be angry
  - Point 5: break free from your habits, desires and goals if they are restricting you (too much)
  - Point 7: Be a "yes man"/"yes woman" occasionally
• 18:30: End...

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