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Friday 13 February there will be another meeting of the tea club, 13:00-15:00. Topic:
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This time something different:
- Questions and answers, about any topic, anyone can ask any question to me or anyone else, and vice versa, but there should be a point of questions, coupled to the general topic: What do you want in life? What do you think other people want in life? It can be about jobs, which city to live, even to move abroad, etc.
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Then if there is time continue with the topic from meeting 2, see this page from a while back if you want to prepare for that: https://swhs.home.xs4all.nl/list_of_life/goncharenko-2026-1-29--30.html
We didn't get round for example to talk about the book "Atomic habits". You can read 30 pages or so of that book to give you an impression what it is about. It was suggested to me in the Goncharenko centre in Lviv. Will it be useful?
Further, we can go over a long list of expressions in English, that I collected from reading, watching videos etc., that stood out to me, which you need to know to properly understand conversations, videos on youtube etc.
For the questions, think about this: What are you willing to do to get what you want in your life?
I will take something different again for with the tea. Surprisingly simple but tasty...
Related to "What are you willing to do in your life (to reach your goals)", you could watch this documentary about Ricky Bruch: https://youtu.be/i8WDEeeI3LM
The statement at about 41:35 is particularly apt...
3nd meeting of 2026, Friday 13 Feb., ca. 13:15-15:00, in the 'Poltava Buratino' club...
The following is approximately what we talked about in the meeting:
In progress.
What do you want in life and what do you want to do for it?
One attendee still in school wanted for example to travel, another wanted to travel and to do the things he didn't get round to do to earlier in life, certain hobbies/interests. Then we got to something I analysed recently, connected to this: A guy called Sadhguru, who gives lectures and talks about spirituality, meditation, enlightenment etc. He said in a video hat I recently analysed that people search for pleasantness. I did not agree but did not tell the attendees my view. I said that he claimed that people aim for pleasantness in their lives. I asked whether anyone was looking for pleasantness in his or her life. The men: No. They seek something of interest. This is exactly what I want in life and which does not fit with Sadhguru's claim.
[ My view that he is not enlightened, he does not know things that he should know. He does not have the required wisdom of life and people, to consider him as enlightened, but I will get to that in an analysis on my website later. ]
The women were more interested in pleasantness but for most of them this was not the only thing. A combination of pleasantness and interesting things is what they wanted, where the percentage of pleasantness varied.
[ you can deduce from principles that this is the case for women, see further on and I will get to that in more detail in my analysis later on my website. ]
Why doesn't this guy Sadhguru know this? Men have always done things in life that are not about pleasantness but about interests: Examples: scientists, mathematicians, explorers, even conquerors, did what they did for other reasons than 'pleasantness' which is what I wrote in my analysis a while back and told in the meeting. Going exploring on a medieval ship from Europe, England, Netherlands, Spain, to places all over the globe, was not a pleasant experience, of illnesses, vitamin C deficiency and other hardships.
[ Artists too did and do things out passion, e.g. Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, that was a drive, not a search for pleasantness. ]
How could he know what other people want: in case of men he could use himself as a template. For women it is more difficult.
[ Women are more complex than men but certain principles he should know from which you can deduce this: women want family, social interactions are more important, women prefer to compromise for example, which all means 'pleasantness in interactions', so for women it is clear a priori that pleasantness is more important. ]
Dealing with customers. Pigeonholing, i.e. putting people into categories, such as you are a certain age so you should be married, you should not walk around in summer clothes in winter, companies wanting people below a certain age (what does it matter? Especially for work at a distance), then you have nonsense in companies who are looking for someone who just graduated but who have 10 years of work experience. Guy who wants to travel, such as to Germany where hd has a friend: I asked about living in Kiev, he would then need to find a well paying job to pay for it but it is hard to find work already when you are 40. Another attendee mentioned an offer by a company who wanted people below 40 and conservative. Why these requirements? Why does it matter? especially for remote work... I mentioned people often ask my age when making bike trips. Why? What does it matter?
Derren brown: manipulation. I discussed some tricks, I will show and discuss more next meeting.
alcohol, losing control, zaporizhya wodka, weed/marihuana, cookies with weed, woman attendee didn't like the smell in Amsterdam
For this meeting I took some rice waffles and put margerine on it, then some cane sugar that I took with me last time from the Netherlands, which is a tasty snack... Then to drinks. I took 2 soft drinks, Poltava Buratino (Buratino = soviet Pinokkio) and Poltava Mohito. No tea as there was no electricity since 17:00 Thursday at my house and no electricity at the centre.
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